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Transparent Podcast: Sarah Noble

In this podcast, we speak to Sarah Noble. Sarah is the parent to her transgender son, and also works closely with LGBT students at RSA Academy Arrow Vale.

She has been a huge help to students and has played a massive role in supporting people who wish to start their transition.

This podcast shows her journey from at first, struggling to come to terms with her son’s transition, to now helping other children in the same situation.

Enjoy!

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Mental Health Helplines

Mental health is something that is no surprise within the transgender community. Whether it’s the fear of telling your family, you’re being bullied, or you’ve faced harassment (physically or sexually), mental health issues are prevalent within the trans community.

It’s always good to have someone to talk to. This doesn’t have to be someone you know. There are trained professionals on helplines and online 24/7 to ensure that your mental health and well-being is paramount.

Here are our recommended mental health helplines:

Mermaids

mermaidsuk.org.uk

0808 801 0400

Samaritans

Samaritans.org

or call 116 123

Childline

Childline.org.uk

or call 0800 1111

Supportline

Supportline.org.uk

or call: 01708765200

YoungMinds

youngminds.org.uk

or call 0808 802 5544

Students against depression

studentsagainstdepression.org

The calm zone

thecalmzone.net

Bullying.co.uk

It is okay to accept help and speak to someone about your feelings and struggles. Unfortunately, being transgender can be difficult. Speak to someone and make sure you get support if needed.

Feel free to message us via our social links on the ‘contact us’ page!

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Mental Health Advice

Mental health is a topic that is prevalent within the transgender community. There are multiple factors that impact mental health for trans people. Whether it be due to bullying, deadnaming, people using incorrect pronouns or most commonly, gender dysphoria overall, a mass proportion of the trans community suffers with mental health in a major way.

Stonewall claims that 27% of trans young people have attempted to commit suicide, with 89% having considered it at some point in their life. 72% have also self harmed at least once. Although these figures don’t state the reason behind these cases, there is always something you can do to help your trans allies and support someone in the trans community who may be struggling mentally.

What can you do?

Lend your ear. Sometimes, not only for transgender people but for anyone suffering with depression or other mental health issues, having someone there to speak to can help massively. Just knowing that whoever is struggling is able to open up to someone and not have any judgement is an amazing feeling and can make a huge difference. Make sure you offer your support and allow that person to explain how they feel and try and give them the advice you think is best.

Provide the person with information on mental health. Transpire has mental health helpline recommendations, along with information on mental health and a mental health journal. This allows you to write down how you are feeling if you don’t wish to talk to anyone yet. Some people who haven’t come out as trans may not feel safe enough to talk to someone, so being able to write down your feelings can help. 

If you are a parent or teacher, use these resources. If not, do your own research as to help you can receive for your child or student. Ensure that you have done your research so that if your child does come to you feeling a certain way about their mental health or transition in general, you can give them sound advice and ensure that they get help if needed.

If you yourself are a trans youth or adult, make sure you open up and ask for help. 

Don’t be ashamed to receive help if you need it. Speaking to someone and getting help in any form sooner rather than later can make all the difference. Often, people with mental health issues are afraid to talk to people or receive help as there is still sadly a stigma attached to mental health. Make sure you trust who is in your life and who is around you and ask them to listen and try to understand you. It is vital that you speak to someone and do not suffer in silence. 

Do your research on transitioning. 

It can all be very confusing at the start of your transition. At the beginning, you might not know the first steps to take, who to tell, and how to go about things. First of all, tell your loved ones and make sure you are very transparent with them. It can be hard for parents, friends and family members to understand if they are new to this subject. Make sure you explain exactly how you feel. Sit down and be an open book. Reveal your preferred pronouns so that they know how to address you and so they don’t get it wrong. Then, when you are ready, speak to your GP! They will give you advice and guidance on the next steps based on your case and what you have told them!

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The Importance of Pronouns

When it comes to pronouns, it is very important to understand that you use them correctly. For transgender and non-binary people, their pronouns define their transition and who they now wish to be. For instance, if a female to male transgender person identified as he/him/his and was then misgendered by a teacher in school, it could have severe affects to them and their mental health. In this instance, the trans boy would have started, or about to start his transition and is only comfortable being called he/his/him. Therefore, if a teacher, peers or even a stranger were to refer to his as “she/her/hers/” then it could very much make them feel like their transition has regressed as society is still struggling to accept them as “him” and still refer to his previous pronouns, her.

It is extremely sensitive, and those that aren’t trans (cisgender) may take their pronouns for granted and struggle to understand that this can be extremely upsetting and, on some occasions, could result in self-harm or lead to depression. For cisgender people, they take pronouns for granted as they don’t understand the struggle of being born as the wrong sex and the need to change their gender in pursuit for happiness.

Along with male and female pronouns that always MUST be respected when it comes to a transgender person’s transition, non-binary also have pronouns that must be respected. The pronouns for a trans person are “they/them/their”. Being non-binary or gender-neutral means to not label yourself with one gender or their linked set of pronouns, but to belong to both gender groups. Therefore, non-binary people must be addressed by “them/they/their”.

If you are the parent or teacher, it is extremely important to first ask which pronouns the child/young adult you are speaking to wishes to be addressed by. Understanding their pronouns and comprehending and respecting them means the world to a transgender person and something that may seem small to someone who isn’t trans is very important to trans people. 

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How to support a trans youth

It can really be a difficult journey as a parent, or even a teacher, of a child that is transgender or having gender identity struggles. Many parents aren’t sure on how to help their child and are scared of doing the wrong things. Here are some pointers that can help you, help a child.

Listen to them

It may not seem like much but one of the most important things that a parent or teacher can do is listen to their child or pupil. Hearing exactly how they feel and having a sit down conversation is extremely important. Each case from one transgender child to another differs, so it is extremely important to listen, and comprehend exactly how the individual is feeling at that specific moment in time or just generally about themselves. Some children may not feel comfortable and may think they are trans but aren’t really sure or educated, and others may be set in stone that they know they are in the wrong body and wish to transition. Listening is key.

Use their preferred pronouns

Pronouns are a very sensitive subject for transgender people. Imagine that for a long period of time, you have known in your head that you are another gender, but have had to be raised as another. It is an extremely distressing feeling. Therefore, when an individual begins their transition and is finally starting to become happy with themselves and who they are, it can be harmful to their progression if an individual was to call them the incorrect pronoun. For instance if a child born female transitions to male, but is still called a girl, it can have really severe effects on the individual. Ensure you take time to think before you speak and make sure you are using the child’s preferred pronouns.

Do your research

Doing your research as a parent or teacher is extremely important. Coming from my own POV, at first I had a lack of knowledge on hormones and how starting my transition worked. I approached the LGBT support teacher at school who gave me information to tavistock, the gender clinic in London, and links to websites and support groups. If you are a parent or teacher, we will provide you with information to links for support, mental health and information on transitioning and hormone replacement therapy that you could print off and read so that you are more educated for your child.

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What is Transgender?

For many parents, finding out their child is transgender can be a sensitive topic. Often parents find it a big shock to the system and feel overwhelmed with information. Of course, any parent loves their child and wishes to be there for them, and it can be a lot of information to process all at once. 

Being transgender is when one’s personal identity does not correspond with the sex they were assigned at birth. For Instance, someone may be born physically male but they identify as female and vice versa. 

Gender Dysporia: according to the Mayo Clinic, Gender dysphoria is the feeling of discomfort or distress that might occur in people whose gender identity differs from their sex assigned at birth or sex-related physical characteristics. Transgender and gender-nonconforming people might experience gender dysphoria at some point in their lives.

A lot of the time, people can get misconstrued with the meaning of cross dressing and being transgender. I myself have experienced people with a lack of knowledge being unaware of the difference. Cross dressing is when someone wishes to remain the sex they were born as, but seeks fulfilment from dressing as the opposite sex. Transgender is when one wishes to take action (whether it be hormones, surgery etc) to permanently change the sex they were assigned at birth to the opposite sex and have that permanent role in society. 

Each case between transgender people is different, so it’s important that if your child comes out to you as trans, that you listen to his/her/their preferences on how they wish for it to be addressed and what they wish the next steps shall be.